Your Lack Of Confidence Is Keeping You Stuck and Broke.

LETS GOOOO!!!!!

I'm excited on Adult Talk today, because I've started off  my day with none other than Motivational Guru Eric Thomas aka "ET" and he has me on fire!

If you could imagine for a second, a small, petite, 5'2 ft woman standing on her bed screaming at the top of her lungs "KNOWLEDGE IS THE NEW CURRENCY!!!!"

Well that was me this morning.(smile). You see, once again I believe that life is simple if you choose to see it that way. I actually believe that thoughts become things. I believe in the power of repetition along with the power of attraction. But here is the funny thing, we "repeat" things all the time, and most of the time we don't even realize it.

BUT WE GET EXACTLY WHAT WE WISH FOR! AND WHAT YOU CONSTANTLY REPEAT

So, you have to ask yourself.... are you repeating things that keep you happy, motivated, inspired?

or

Are you saying things that keep you STUCK.....MISERABLE...OR UNHAPPY?

Here is a simple test to see which side is actually winning....

Ready?!!

LOOK AT YOUR LIFE!

simple.....

LOOK AT YOUR LIFE!

Now which one is it? Now you certainly don't have to tell me, but you do need to be honest with yourself. Let me be transparent here.For years I felt stuck, unhappy, upset, and confused and I blamed my circumstances and situation and everything around me, and of course I saw logic in it,but here is a little unknown secret....

IT DOESN'T MATTER HOW LOGICAL SOMETHING IS....BLAMING THINGS OUTSIDE OF YOURSELF WILL KEEP YOU STUCK!

IT TAKES AWAY YOUR POWER!

Life is full of challenges and obstacles, but they are necessary to hep assist you in your expected outcome.Let me share some of my personal story with you before we really dive into days topic

 Your Lack Of Confidence Is Keeping You  Stuck and Broke

Growing up in a small tight knit community, I was blessed to have friends and family that seemed to accept me for simply being myself, so growing up in my adolescent years I didn't face certain challenges that a lot of people faced when it came to being myself.

For the most part, I had a pretty decent child hood, and even as a teenager I had a lot of fun. I believe it was because I was affirmed by my parents, family and friends. I danced, I cheered, I sang in the choir and I did those things that I wanted to do, and I didn't concern myself with failing or the outcome of it.

I WAS TOTALLY OBLIVIOUS TO THE IDEA OF FAILING.... 

and so because failure was never an OPTION  to begin with, I never "EXPECTED" it.

My confidence had not yet been tested at this point in my life so I was a very self assured young lady, and  frankly its easy to believe in yourself if everything around you affirms you, but what happens when you are no longer affirmed?

What happens to your confidence when thats never been your experience or it changes? (Lets talk about this later in the blog)

So I left home at the age of 19, to pursue my new life, I was full of hopes and dreams, like so many young people who leave their parents home. So may things I wanted to do with my life. So many things that were expected from those that loved me.

WOW!

so I made a simple plan.....

MY PLANS WERE TO BE HAPPY, RICH AND SUCCESSFUL!!

lol.....

and then.....

REALITY!

NONE OF THAT HAPPENED IN MY ONE YEAR PLAN(LOL)

\Why? What was wrong? 

It was supposed o be easy for me. I mean, everything else was easy for me. Everything I tried I excelled in, but this was different.

 It was called LIFE!

You see, for the first time in my life I was meeting different people, people that didn't look like me, think like me, or perceive life in the same manner and I loved that, but what I didn't plan on was that life was to be taken a little bit more serious now, and I wasn't really prepared.

I admired my new friends and was even intrigued by their stories of growing up, and frankly most of their stories had to do with hardship, challenges and obstacles that I had not yet faced in my life.

But they had this level of "earthiness" that I was enamored by. They had this"grit" that I wanted. It was this level of understanding of who they were that I had not experienced yet.
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Why was I so attracted to them?

It was their CONFIDENCE,but not just simple, shallow, meaningless confidence. This confidence was attached to something. Something real, and meaningful, it was attached to overcoming challenges, and heartbreak, and the harshness of life. My friends, colleagues , neighbors and associates had already begun to experience life on a different level than myself, and I was intrigued.

They had already experienced the trials and winds and harshness of life, but its what built their  resolve.  So here it was on my 21st birthday, I was so excited about life. I had a  a real adult relationship, my own car, job and apartment  but I wasn't

HAPPY.... SUCCESSFUL....or RICH (LOL) so I knew that I had to keep striving.

 See, I  believed that if I got the(1) money, the (2)success would come, then I would be (3)happy!

What can I say, I told you that I was 21(smile). I didn't understand the formula of how life should work out, and because I didn't fully understand that I had it all backwards it affected me over the next several years of my life. I became  more and more disconnected,and because I was out of order(money...success...happiness) I met life with one failure after another. 

I failed so often, that I expected failure!

 I WAS NEVER SATISFIED.

Failed businesses, failed ideas, failed relationships. Every attempt was one BIG ZERO!!! and frankly I stopped believing in myself.


My confidence had been in the ring with life., and LIFE WAS BEATING MY TAIL!

Until one day around 24 years old I was introduced to a book called "THINK AND GROW RICH" by Napoleon Hill . A young man who was commissioned by Andrew Carnegie who was the wealthiest Man in America at that time (over 70 years ago) to dedicate his life to the study of the wealthiest and most successful people in America, The culmination of his twenty year study produced the book that all Inspirational and Motivational Speakers have adopted in their arsenal.

I wanted to share Dr. Hill briefly because this book is what started me on the right track , and led me to meeting the man who is responsible for introducing me to a world that that I had never known.

It taught me Principles that went on to change my life forever(will share in upcoming blog)

Did I become rich? 

No.

I got something even better.. I became RICH WITH IDEAS.

And that certainly made me happy.

I created my own school of thought.... 

IDEAS AND KNOWLEDGE COMBINED WITH CONSISTENT ACTION PRODUCE EXPECTED RESULTS.

I became a student of this way of thinking. Though it took years to refine, my confidence grew not because it was easy, but because I understood that if you work any principle consistently over time you will get the result you desire.  So instead of focusing on money, I focused on what made me happy. I got rid of any thoughts of others opinions and strictly focused on my passions, my purpose and how I can best use those things to serve others.

When you do the things you love, and those things that are in congruence with your passions and purpose you are building a pathway to your very own DESTINY!!!

YOUR CONFIDENCE GROWS AS A RESULT..

YOU BECOME BIGGER....BETTER.....MORE POWERFUL.

Your movement provides momentum, and you are no longer stuck. When you continue to act on what is purposeful, the money will find its way to you.Hear me clearly, it may not happen today, tomorrow or in the next 5 or 10 years but you must be prepared to look at several areas of your life. I today I will just share three.

1.Committment- How committed are you to the process? 1 year, 3 years, 5 years, 20?
2. Sacrifice- What are you willing to sacrifice? Time? Money? Relationships? Fun? Your Present?
3. Confidence-What are you confident in? Yourself? Your skills? Your talents? Your gifts?

Look at these questions and be honest with yourself. I suggested earlier in the title of today's blog that  Your lack of confidence is keeping you stuck and broke, and its simple because money and opportunity will never come to those who don't believe in themselves.

This may sound like a spiritual concept and that's because it is. Can people who don't believe make money? Yes....

But to get true fulfillment, happiness, success and RICHES and keep them you must believe in who you are so that that the flow of wealth and opportunity continue to find you. I know this for myself. Iknow that principles work if applied by whoever chooses to participate. 

You have to be willing to trust what you know is true and trust the process.

Remember when I told you that Napoleon Hill's book introduced me to a new way of thinking when I was just 24 years old? Well it led me to follow one of the best Inspirational Speakers in Modern History by the name of Les Brown. This man opened up places in my mind that I never dreamed possible, and I made a vow that I would one day meet him and he would be my mentor. I didn't know how or when but I knew that it would happen, because I BELIEVED DEEP IN MY SOUL BECAUSE IT WAS MY LIFE'S MISSION TO DO SO.

I listened to him for countless hours over 20 years, and he is the reason I speak the way that I do today with so much heart and passion. It's his voice that I hear before I get on stage. Its his voice that I hear when I've been met with the impossible. It's his vice that has made me GET UP!!!

At the age of 72 he is still HUNGRY!!!!

and at the tender age of 45 so am I!!!

You can't imagine how I felt recently when that day finally came. The day that Mr. Les Brown himself . That day he had a conversation with me.....and when he said my name tears tolled down my cheeks. 

FINALLY....

The day that was already set in motion from day one. The day that was set in motion when realizing my purpose of inspiring others and sharing knowledge and information to empower. For the years my gifts were being put in the trial by fire..... 

THAT DAY MADE IT ALL WORTH IT.

He started very simply by saying.....

"Kimberly you are absolutely beautiful, and  your energy is  delightful".

as he continued to speak to me, and ask me questions, and give me insight and advice, I couldn't help but express my gratitude for who he has meant to me, and the gift hehas given me.

He finished the conversation with......

"Kim...I want you to do 5 things for me tonight, and call me as soon as you are through. "

Well everyone.... I did those five things, and you just have to wait on the rest, but in the meantime I want you to listen to my mentor. The man who got me from being STUCK and lacking confidence because of life's circumstances.... 

NOW I COMMAND MONEY AND OPPORTUNITY BECAUSE I KNOW THE PURPOSE OF MY LIFE AND I STAND IN THE FULLNESS OF IT.

ITS YOUR TIME....

You are amazing, and deserving, and its time to step into it. Master it. own it. Now WIN!

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IF YOU BUILD IT THEY WILL COME

Is Social Media Breaking Up Relationships?

Wassup family!

WELCOME TO ADULT TALK WITH INSPIRATIONAL BEAUTY!

Depending on when you're reading this, let me start off this thing right!

Here.....WE.....GO........

Happy Motivational Monday!  Happy Thoughtful Tuesday.... Happy Wise Wednesday! Happy Thankful Thursday! Happy FREAKY FRIDAYYYYY!

I think I covered it. (smile)

Ok...I know you are excited about today's blog because of the topic, and I must admit that I can't wait to share it with you.

So if this is your first time with me, I want to introduce you to some of my rituals. Do't worry, I promise I will ease you into it(smile).I usually  start my day off with a nice cup of "Joe", or tea, or even a a nice expresso.

I usually work out, pray, and listen to something that calms or even moves my soul.

So right now, I am sitting at my desk, and looking out the window. while listening to the beautiful songstress Anita Baker. Whew.... her music never gets old. You feel me? I know you do. I never thought that I would say this, for the sake of not sounding old, but I have to.....

THEY DON"T MAKE MUSIC LIKE THAT ANYMORE! :-)

Let me  qualify this statement. I'm not saying we don't have great artist out there, but lets be real, things are a little "microwavable" in music right now. I prefer a slower smoother taste in everything that I do. That's just me, and I love smooth melodies, and consistent grooves.

It hits the PROVERBIAL SPOT if you know what I mean.

So,,,anyway I don't want to be selfish, let me share a little Anita Baker with you right now. Ok I will stop singing right now at THE TOP OF MY LUNGS!!

I will be back in a sec....enjoy a little Anita Baker while I step outside to get the mail....:-)

I swear THIS POWER BILL NEVER GOES DOWN...ooh Ulta is having a sale!

Ummm... Forgive me...Im speaking out loud again!

OH... just want to remind you that if you did not get a chance to check out my interview right here in #ADULTTALKWITHIB with the beautiful the beautiful Nicole Grays Owens, Check it out.

Please check out the first part of our interview. It was delicious.  Trust me 'I'm saving the second part of our interview with good reason..... I cant wait for you to hear  how I responded in THE HOT SEAT!!

I really enjoyed speaking with this Amazing young lady. Shes not only beautiful, but she has such a warm spirit and loves people, and works hard to live her life to the fullest.  Nikko also handles her business.

 I must say you should never judge a book by its cover. you will miss out on a lot of great people when doing that.

It is so easy to judge people by first glance. I'm not saying its right or wrong, but its definitely misleading, and so I wanted to talk about something today that is causing problems in a lot of relationships as well as marriages today.

I put out the question through social media, and it was something like this....

Do you think that its Inappropriate  to like someone of the opposite sex pics on social media if you are married or in a relationship?.

LETS GET TO IT.

As you can imagine, there were soooo many responses, but what was even more surprising was the difference in opinion. Some answers were short and to the point, while others were a it more thought out and complex.

As I read through each answer I became a little more informed and even more enlightened on how people feel abuot something that most relationships are dealing with right now. 

I saw responses like...

 "Social Media" kills relationships!"

"A relationship must have trust, and there has to be a clear line of communication and respect, and liking someones pic is not cause to be alarmed. 

I must say that I agree with both. Now of course assuming that there are different variables in every relationship, but of course my school of thought is very simple.

A relationship should be between two mature adults that respect one another, while communicating their wants, and  desires as well as what pains them to their partner.

Simple?

In theory!

You see, before we ever get the the idea that social media or the internet breaks up relationships we must visit the relationship itself.If your relationship is already fractured and is vulnerable I must say that taking to social media and talking with the opposite sex can cause a major problem, especially if your mate doesn't know this person.

I am not suggesting that men and  women cannot be friends, I think that's unrealistic, and also not healthy. But lets take a good hard look at this.

So I'm going to pose two different  questions for a healthy relationship first.

1. Can Social Media break up a Healthy Marriage or Relationship?

 No. The answer is No, because healthy shows that there are a couple of things that this relationship already has. It has two partners who are stable in who they are as individuals.They are able to effectively communicate. They understand that "likes" do not equate to wanting to leave them and hook up with this new person. In the event that it becomes an issue, they will address it and move on. This type of relationship has honesty and mutual respect.

2. Do you think that its Inappropriate  to like someone of the opposite sex pics on social media if you are married or in a relationship?.

No....Once again in a healthy loving and mutually respected relationship, simply liking the picture isn't enough to hurt this type of relationship long term. They understand that people are there for business as well as other things, but that is where respect comes in.

People are on social media for many reasons, but we all are here to be noticed by others for one reason or another. 

I will use myself as an example. I am a Writer, a Coach, a Personality, and I use it to connect to my audience, my clients and those who need inspiration, empowerment and motivation. I use my"likeness" to get noticed by both sexes to get out my message. 

YOU ARE MORE POWERFUL THAN YOU COULD EVER IMAGINE

ITS NOT TO PICK UP A MAN......

But I would be beside myself if I didn't speak to the majority of relationships and how its truly causing serious problems for a lot of people.

I'm just going to say it and point out the obvious. First of all,  there are a lot of relationships 'that involve one or more insecure people within the relationship, so that is already a recipe for disaster when you involve a powder keg like"social media".

WHY?

It its the easiest way and simplest way to get noticed by the opposite sex. When you are starving in your relationship, there are a couple of million people to validate you in the click of a button.

Now before, you start saying tha'ts shallow, and all of that, lets really not judge folks yet.  

We all have felt unappreciated or underappreciated in our lives at times,even in relationships, and getting that first "LIKE" is intoxicating. It's a feeling that we chase over and over and over if we are not careful, and being married or being in a relationship doesn't always curb that if you are feeling like the one you're with no longer sees you.

Sometimes you believe they no longer see you as interesting, or sexy, or compliment you, and those on social media will give that to you.

And.....Yes.... it makes you feel good.

But over time it can hurt and damage a relationship where a person is now getting their needs met for affection, and adoration outside of the relationship. That is a problem. Social media is not the cause, but it can help lead to the end if you are not careful with how you handle what's really going on.

Remember, what you hide will GROW!!! 

You have to constantly feed the monster.

Relationships are already delicate at times, and it cant always handle all the attention from others even if its positive,if you are not prepared for it. 

I MUST ADMIT THE LOVE FROM SOCIAL MEDIA PROVIDES A HIGH!

I'm speaking from experience, but I am also not married or in a committed relationship at this time. So things are a little different for me, but one thing rings true. Whether single or committed, put social media n a "box". The people are real, but they are not real in your life. 

We have to separate whats real, and whats not.

My advice to all of you is to not allow whats a fantasy to mess up what's real.

So lets look at the pros and cons and see what some of the responses were by some of you that responded.... 

"Beauty is Beauty....So if your husband buys fords but looks at a Camaro's is that disrespectful?"Mia

" I would try to avoid liking one persons pics too much, because it can seem disrespectful to my wife." Malcolm

"I like anyone's pics, it doesn't matter to me, because my husband and I are not insecure. Now if they are half naked that is another story." Marquetta

Share your thoughts on what You just heard from myself and from some of you. Look out for more on this topic  this week.. also if you want to know HOW TO KEEP YOUR PARTNER INTERESTED please check out previous blog 

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Get Ready For Ms. Nicole Grays Owens On Adult Talk With IB

 It is Friday and do you know what that means? Well, depending on who you are and where you are, it can mean different things, but here on Adult Talk With Inspirational Beauty it means we have a guest!

So, that means I have to get up, brush my hair, put on my red poppin" lipstick, and six inch heels. Well not quite. But a girl can dream cant she? LOL

Happy FRIDAY Beautiful people!

I think the red pppin lipstick will do, because I have to get ready for who's up FIRST HERE ON  ADULT TALK WITH IB?

Ok guys and dolls, I want yiu to loosen up, so sit back and relax and meet our guest today with open arms because she is lively, bold, and authentic. I have been following this young lady for a while through social media because there is just somthing about her. Shes sleek, steady, and unapologetic. 

Who is this woman?

WELL.....

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Lets find out.

Ms. Nicole Grays Owens "AKA" #Nikko

A Model, Stylist, Entrepreneur, Actress, Writer and in her own words a SEDUCTRESS!

Lets just say we are going to have a good time, talking about those things behind the curtains. "wink wink"

So this is how today's conversation will go today. Get your pen and pape ready to take notes. You have one minute!

 As I wait, Im gonna sit up here and finish listening to a little Mary J Blige! 

YASSSS!!.

Ok, so I think I hear this "Beauty" coming down the hall right now. So let me get myself together.I do have a little home trainng, right Ma?(smile)  Something tells me Ithat this interview will be deliciously fun!

So lets get right into it.

Welcome To Adult Talk with Inspirational Beauty

Ms. Nicole Grays Owens, welcome to #ADULTTALKWITHIB..... You are looking exceptionally beautiful as always. Thank you for stopping through!

Nikko-THANK YOU FOR HAVING ME KIMBERLY! I CAN'T WAIT TO GET IT STARTED...WHAT DO YOU HAVE FOR ME?

IB- Ok... you asked for it .Well young lady, you are a lady with many talents. So lets make this fun and  tell us in alphabetical order five of your talents! 

Niko- Ok, I see how you roll already(smile) Alright lets do it. 

1.ACTRESS

2.ETIQUETTE COACH FOR YOUNG LADIES & GENTLEMEN (AGES 8-18) AND FOR MILLENNIALS ENTERING 3.CORPORATE AMERICA

4.WARDROBE STYLIST

5.WRITER

6.LOVER/MODEL/SEDUCTRESS - I DON'T COUNT VERY WELL LOL *WINK*

IB- No worries.... Hey... when you are blessed with many talents and gifts its hard to leave something out. You shouldn't be so doggone gifted.(LOL). Plus you get extra points for sharing those things in alphabetical order(smile)

I notice you shared that you are a lover and a SEDUCTRESS! I cant wait to get into that a little more. I'm sure our readers are just as interested to hear more about that as well #Nikko!

So I know already, you're going to make this interview really easy for me. I would say its a conversation, that can go "anywhere" at "anytime" just like I like it. Now, I've seen you all over social media and you are a larger than life personality. 

Tell me something that no one knows about you.(devilish laugh)

Nikko- OOH GIRL... Kim you are definitely trying to get me to tell all my secrets.(LOL)

PERIODICALLY I BATHE WITH CHAMPAGNE. (smile) ALLOW ME TO EXPLAIN. I KEEP AN INEXPENSIVE BOTTLE OF ROSE' CHILLED AT ALL TIMES AND WHEN I'M FEELING MYSELF I POP THE CORK, TAKE A FEW SIPS, THEN AFTER I'VE LATHERED UP IN THE TUB, I POUR THE REMAINDER OF THE BOTTLE ALL OVER MY BODY, STARTING WITH MY HAIR ALLLLLLLL THE WAY DOWN TO THE TIPS OF MY TOES AND LATHER SOME MORE. #BUBBLIN' (I'M SUCH A GIRL)

IB- So let me get this straight, you start off by sippin a little, and then you pour some into the water starting with pouring into your hair. Now thats DOPE! #gotta Try It. I have a feeling our readers may be thinking of doing this theselves(LOL).

Lets shift a bit......Tell us how you got into your current profession and current projects.

Nikko- THE JOURNEY TO WHERE I AM NOW HAS BEEN ONE HAPPY ACCIDENT  OR INCIDENT AFTER ANOTHER. IF I WERE TO ACTUALLY TELL THE STORY YOUR READERS WOULD BE BLURRY EYED. LET'S JUST SAY I'VE BEEN EXTREMeLY FORTUNATE TO BE IN THE RIGHT PLACES AT THE RIGHT TIMES, AND I WAS PREPARED FOR WHAT WAS PROPOSED. 

 WHETHER BEING ASKED TO BE A CAST MATE ON TWO DIFFERENT REALITY SHOWS (STILL IN PRODUCTION) OR STYLING FOR CLIENTS OR APPEARING AS A SPECIAL GUEST ON A SHOW OR PODCAST...IT'S ALL BEEN RELEVANT TO MY BRAND AND JUST FELT RIGHT, SO I ROLLED WITH IT. IF IM NOT FEELIN' A PROJECT I WONT TOUCH IT OR ATTACH MY NAME TO IT. BUILDING A BRAND IS HARD WORK.. EVERY THING I DO, SAY, POST  OR GO IS DELIBERATE, INTENTIONAL AND THOUGHT OUT - WHETHER THE INTENDED AUDIENCE KNOWS IT OR NOT.

IB- I can see that you are methodical in your approach. I believe tha'ts what makes you stand out. Your focus and attention to detail is noticeable.  

You ready to have some fun?

Ok... Idris or Omari Hardwick? 

NIKKO- NEITHER. DON'T GET ME WRONG...LOVE BOTH OF THESE TALENTED AND INCREDIBLY HANDSOME BROTHAS, BUT I'D GO METHOD MAN, RICK ROSS OR THE BACKWARDS GUITAR PLAYING CHARACTER (PLAYED BY TERRANCE HOWARD) IN "THE BEST MAN". I DON'T GO FOR THE OBVIOUS. WANT THAT DUDE THAT EVERYONE WANTS, BUT ISN'T ON MAINSTREAM RADAR. THAT'S THE DUDE I WANNA CONNECT WITH, BE SEEN WITH, AND HIT THE RED CARPET WITH. AND IF HE'S UP TO TASK I MIGHT GET HIM PREGNANT SO WE CAN GO HALF ON A BABY. *LAUGHING OUT LOUD* IF THOSE DUDES AREN'T AVAILABLE GIMME LIL KIM, RIHANNA, CARDI B. OR TEYANA TAYLOR - NOT THAT I DATE WOMEN, BUT JUST AS A BACK UP PLAN. 

IB_ Wow! Thats funny.... Lil KIm, may be a little to short(LOL). so, you dont go for the obvious. I get it. You kind of go against the grain, not because you're trying to prove anything, but that's just simply who you are. Method Man was dope back in the day though!

IB_. Now we know you're beautiful, smart, and sexy but youre quite funny as well. Where did you get your delicious humor? 

ME? BEAUTIFUL, SMART AND SEXY...NOOOOO (SAY IT AGAIN, SAY IT AGAIN...LOL'ING). THANK YOU KIMBERLY. MY WICKED SENSE OF HUMOR DEFINETLY COMES FROM MY MOMMY. SHE GAINED HER WINGS DECEMBER 21, 2015, BUT I KNOW SHE'S RESTING IN ROSES, SIPPING ON A GINGER ALE, HOLLERING OUT BODACIOUSLY "HEFFA, YOU'D BETTER SAID ME OR I'D COME BACK JUST LONG ENOUGH TO HAUNT YOUR A**." 

 MY MOM NEVER HELD HER TONGUE AND SO I HAVE GREAT DIFFICULTY HOLDING MINE. I DON'T SEE MYSELF AS 'FUNNY' AS MUCH AS I AM 'FLIPPANT'. ONE OF MY FAVORITE CATCH PHRASES IS "IT AIN'T EASY BEING GREASY BUT IT SHO IS SLICK", THAT OR SLIDING SOME SONG LYRIC SMACK DAB IN THE MIDDLE OF MY CONVERSATIONS WITH PEOPLE. I LOVE MUSIC AND USUALLY SOMEBODY'S SOMETHING WILL JUST SLIDE IT'S WAY OUT MY PIE HOLE.

 WHILE I'M BUMPIN MY GUMS. I ALSO HAVE MY OWN LANGUAGE. I MAKE UP WORDS TO SUIT THE SITUATION AND PEOPLE FIND THAT ENTERTAINING. TRUST ME, ALL COMEDIANS ARE SAFE, THAT IS NOT MY AREA OF EXPERTISE. THIS PRETTY FACE JUST LET'S ME  GET AWAY WITH BEING SLICK-MOUTHED AND OFF BEAT. SO FAR NO ONE HAS POPPED ME IN THE KISSER SO I'M DOIN AIIIIIIIGHT.

IB-LOLOLOL 

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Whats your favorite body part?

NIKKO_ON ME? ON WOMEN? OR ON MEN? GURL, YOU GOTS TO BE SPECIFIC!

ON ME: IT'S A 4 WAY TIE BETWEEN MY BOW-LEGS, LIPS, NEW BREASTS AND MY NEW BOOTY.

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ON WOMEN: I WILL HAVE A GIRL CRUSH QUICK IF A CHICK HAS NATURALLY BOMB A$$ HAIR. ONE OF MY FAVES IS RAPPER, JIM JONES' CHRISSY LUMPKIN. I'M SO IN LOVE WITH HER, BUT IT'S HER HAIR THAT MAKES HER MY CRUSH..

ON A MAN: CHILE...THAT LIST IS LONG AND MANDATORY BUT FOR GIGGLES I'LL GIVE YOU - HIS LIPS, SMILE, HEIGHT (IS HEIGHT A 'BODY PART'? IF NOT LET'S MAKE AN EXCEPTION) AND HIS HEART...WHAT'S IN A MAN'S HEART IS EXTREMELY SEXY TO ME AND INTELLIGENCE IS A DEFINITE TURN ON! #NERDBOYSRULE

IB- You know what Chrissy Lumpkin HAIR IS THE BOMB (smile) It's good to hear a woman says she loves different parts of herself. I have dedicated my life reminding women how beautiful they are, so it is really refreshing to hear how much you love being a lady. Plus we get to wear dope hair, nails, outfits and LIPSTICK(smile)

I believe that also isone of your mantras #DOPESINCE69

You know Im going to interject, because this conversation is so smooth and effortless Iwant our readers to feel the vibe right now......

You know what Nikko?

 I don"t want to give our readers to know  everything in one take, so we are gonna put a pin in it right here. I Know I Know, it was just getting good. But, veryone get ready, because we go deeper in our continuation where  Nikko will share what she would change about herself, and she will put me in the HOT SEAT during our #ASKIB portion,

I don't  know if you're ready. I don't think I'm ready....lol

So make sure you cam back next week to find out more, in the mean time you can follow her at 

WEBSITE: NICOLEGRAYSOWENS.COM (E-COMMERCE STORE ON SITE UNDER CONSTRUCTION HOPING TO LAUNCH IN TIME FOR HOLIDAY SHOPPING)

EMAIL: NICOLE@NICOLEGRAYSOWENS.COM

FB: NICOLE GRAYS OWENS (personal page)

FB FAN PAGE: NICOLE GRAYS OWENS

TWEET: @IAmNicoleGOwens

IG: NICOLE_GRAYS_OWENS

SNAP: NGO 1969 (DOPESINCE_1969)

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NICOLE GRAYS OWENS

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How To Keep Your Partner Interested on Adult Talk With Inspirational Beauty

How To Keep Your Partner Interested

Adult Talk With Inspirational Beauty

It is a BEAUTIFUL MORNING!! 

As I sit here at my desk this morning writing to you, I'm sipping on a lukewarm cup of coffee.0(ughhhhh Actually I hate "lukewarm" anything, but when I'm writing,I get engrossed in the moment, and it never fails....what started off "piping" hot ends up becoming room temperature! You would think that I would be used to it by now, but I guess that's what microwaves are for.(smile).

So  as I made my way back to the kitchen to reheat my cup of"Joe" I put on  my cute fluffy socks, ponytail holder, my  pink head phones,"TURNED ALL THE WAY UP' to the maximum. So imagine this.... I'm strutting down the hall  listening to a little JayZ's Blueprint(yeah I'm ol school) .... eyes closed, cup of coffee in my right  hand, and the other hand on my hip  doing the "milly rock"

READY TO GET THIS DAY STARTED

If only my assistant could see me now, she would probably join me in a twenty minute dance off.LOL. So  back to the coffee. I put the coffee in the microwave but didn't set the timer, because I realized I needed to eat something, so I decided to make something  a little different, so my mind started trying to be creative. I didn't want the same old breakfast that I prepare everyday so I decided to make some crepes. You may be wondering "crepes"? You have time to do all that, plus run a business, have meetings, make videos, and write?

YESSSSSSSS! I LOVE MY FOOD!

So here is what I made today people!

Aren't they beautiful? So here is a link so that you can make cool crepes too. I mean after all sharing is caring right?(lol)

Do you wanna hear something funny? I never did re-heat my coffee. I totally forgot that it was in the microwave!

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GEESH!!

Well it was probably for the best. 

So back to my desk..... .in my comfy chair, that leans back just right. I now have to get in the mood to talk about something that I cant wait to share with you guys. But first I have to turn off "HOV" and put on a little "Luther". Thats right a little Luther Vandross. 

SO GET READY!..

Welcome to ADULT TALK WITH INSPIRATIONAL BEAUTY! #ADULTTALKWITHIB

So as  I sit here listening to Luther, he is using that good ol' silky voice to talk about"Creepin". Now that's an entirely different topic from today's topic, but I promise you we will definitely visit that  in future blogs,but today we are focusing on something that we all need help with from time to time.

Today we are focusing on "How To Keep Your Partner Interested"

You know, a couple of days ago I was on social media, and talking with a couple of you and asked you the question, and you had some really great ideas, and even deep thoughts concerning this mater. You know, so often we want things to change, but the problem is we don't know how to make those changes happern.

Well you are in luck. I'm not saying I have all the answers, but I can bring a little bit of objectivity to the situation. I'm just like many of you, I'm no stranger to trying to make my personal relationship work. I would often find myself mystified, because I thought I tried it all, but let me tell you something right now, none of us have TRIED IT ALL!

when you really desire something or someone, you try and do your best, and then and only then will you be able to walk way if you have to,

so why do we even care if our partner remains interested?

i believe it says a lot about you as a person to want to go deeper  with that MAN.... with that WOMAN! 

Getting their interest is easy, but maintaining and keeping it is a different story. You may be thinking you don't have time, things have changed, and you're just too exhausted.

Well,  I don't want to put more on you, but lets just look at some simple things that can get  you back on track. I'ts not the "cure all" for a relationship that may be ending, or on its last leg like a dying animal hit on the highway(smile) but for those that just want to spice things up a bit, these are some fun things you can do.

Before we get into it,   lets look at why your partner may "believe" they are losing  interest in the first place. So lets make it simple. Since I am a Coach I love "steps, tips and  anything that I can put a number beside.(LOL) 

So lets start with The Basics.

1.Partner Has Changed

2. Sex or Lack of Good Sex

3. Money

4. Effective Communication

Now for the sake of getting through this blog without creating a headache for you or myself, lets just stick with these four just on today. On Wednesday I promise we will continue with some things that are on the list that you may be unaware of. I am a person who loves to look at problems to try to understand them and come to some resolution if possible. Presenting the problem is just the first step, but it should never end there.

 Are you ready to dive in?

Lets DIVE!

Challenge:PARTNER HAS CHANGED

1. We have all heard this one before, but I want to challenge this statement a little bit.Now most people may believe this means the individual has  changed for the "worse. I want you to take a pause for about 15 seconds right here  because changing for the better can also be a problem for some relationships.(will share on a later blog). But lets keep this simple right now. These are common scenarios, because all people will change at one point or another for different reasons. But some of  the specific complaints are things like.....

" She doesn't clean anymore."

"She doesn't keep herself up anymore."

"She doesn't respect me anymore"

or

"He doesn't show me any attention anymore, or give me affection."

" He just wants sex,doesn't want to take me out anymore."

" We are not interested in the same things anymore."

So, if you are over the age of 18 you have either heard these before, or have stated them before.Lets start with the good news first. YOU ARE NOT ALONE(smile).

Every person in the world has felt like this at times whether they will ever admit it or not. Its so easy to judge one another . Especially those closest to us because we feel like we hold that "right" or "position" because being  closest to them qualifies us to constantly remind  each other of our short comings. 

Ok... so the PERSON HAS CHANGED, or they're not doing what they used to do. What 'Im going to share next is really going to surprise you. There are only two reasons why any of us stop or start to do anything.

1. Pleasure or Pain

Ask yourself, when you first started dating, you did all these things  to keep yourself up because it was going to net "You" some "PLEASURE." You see, we ladies get all dolled up because we like the way that it makes us feel and we like what we see, but we LOVE WHEN YOU NOTICE(pleasure)

As time goes on, some time life gets a little harder, and now we have kids, demanding jobs,crazy schedules, and now its "PAINFUL" to take time for ourselves because other things will get behind. (you know what IM talking about) . So what started off as fun, has now become a challenge, and the "partner" thinks you no longer care. that may be the case, because on the list or priorities it may have to take a back seat. it should.....

TEMPORARILY 

Confusing?

Impossible to change back?

Not at all....

This is is where self care comes in.As our lives chanege we may have to rearrange some things but its important for your well being, and for your relationship.So here are a few suggestions.

SOLUTIONS;

1. When you see your partner no longer keeping themselves up, they are probably overwhelmed. Suggest a "TAKEOVER". You will then take over a duty or several duties for a 24 hour period, so they can recharge, doing something fun, or be pampered. The key is to NOT TAKE NO FOR AN ANSWER.

Make it fun and present a "TAKEOVER" coupon.

Try it, its fun, sexy and adds spice to any relationship.Now if your partner is very busy you may have to schedule this "TAKEOVER" so that it will work. Have fun.It can be a 24 hour period, 48 or 72, but the goal is to help them get back on track, and you get ALL THE BENEFITS!

You can Thank me NOW!

Now lets look at number 2.

Challenge: Sex or Lack Of Good Sex"

2. SEX is such a small word but such a REAL ISSUE FOR MOST RELATIONSHIPS! Lets visit this challenge. Sex can present challenges, and I choose to call it a challenge because that means that it can be conquered. That's great news.  I don't  really believe in problems, because it tells me something is impossible, so  instead a "challenge" denotes things  may be difficult  but not Impossible to overcome. 

My intention is not to get "overly" deep about sex because that's not the point we are going for in today's blog. But in every relationship sex is either stressed as a "NEED" or a "WANT', and depending on the relationship it can be either or even both.

But generally in every relationship there is one  person who may express it as a NEED more than the other person, and that may cause some problems if not communicated in a positive way.. So you may hear things like this....

"She doesnt give it to me like I need it."

"I don't feel comfortable doing that with him."

" I need more variety to satisfy me"

"Its always the same, I do'nt even want it."

"I don't feel sexy anymore, I don't want to show him my body."

So some of these issues are with the individual not feeling adequate, and some of the other statements have to do with not feeling satisfied. So lets get to a solution on this one. It's very simple.....

SOLUTION:

2.COMMUNICATION. 

Simple right?

I'm going to go a little deeper here, not only communicate your needs to your partner, but learn how to communicate your needs to yourself.You do that by accepting that you are beautiful,  attractive, amazing, interesting, and deserved to be loved, That allows you to feel more comfortable with yourself and it provides a safe place for your partner .

Great love making is all about feeling safe for a woman. She must feel comfortable with her body, her emotions and that these things are reciprocated from her man. She must feel connected.

AMAZING Love Making for a man, he must feel like you are enjoying what he is offering. He wants to hear your excitement, he wants to feel your body move along with his. He wants to see your enjoyment. He will connect more physically and that will eventually translate to  more emotions from him because he feels you trust him, and he can trust you as well., 

So here is a little exercise.

1 Men....,If you are desiring more intimacy and sex from your partner provide a safe place for them. So gentlemen, take her somewhere really nice and make it all about her. Also do something to focus on the little things,

 A MUST GIVE HER ATTENTION, AFFECTION and ADORATION....

Doo a small scavenger hunt, and put a couple of items around the house or in the car of things that speak to her heart, and end the night with a nice foot massage or back rub, whisper in her ear she is the only one for you....... and Enjoy!

2. Women if you are desiring more intimacy in your love making from your Man, lead with CONFIDENCE,. don't be shy. Don't hold back on letting him know how much he pleases you, and how much you love him. Is this EGO STROKING? Yes....Men are simple, not stupid. Just simple. But you don't have to lay it on thick. CONFIDENCE  and  being uninhibited is enough to get him going and keep him interested. So when he comes home do the unexpected, Be creative! Enjoy

So lets talk about number "3" 

3. Challenge: Money Issues

"Whoever has it, has control."

Is that a fair statement?

I would say there's a little bit of truth to it. Sohere we go. In America it is estimated that 50 percent of all marriages end in divorce, and one of the main issues is due to finance. You know.... MONEY...DINERO...CASH...CURRENCY....COINS.

When I was younger  I always believed that as long as you had love, that there was nothing that you couldn't conquer.I still believe that to be true, but I had to understand the ways of the world. Now that I am more mature and look for more practical  solutions, things have become a little easier.  Mos of us get married or get into relationships because we love that other person, but we forget that apart of being able to grow as a unit we must have a plan for our money. (We will talk about "Money Matters" on another blog0, but for right now we want to see what we can do right now to change some things. 

Some people don't believe that money or lack of it, or understanding it can cause a "riff" or loss of interest in a relationship. Not only can it, 

IT WILL DESTROY A RELATIONSHIP IF NOT RESOLVED.

How will it affect interest or lack of interest from your partner?

Well money is an extension of your relationship. It is a way that we bring safety and security into our relationship as well as supplying needs and wants. This can affect every area of a relationship because money is the only form of currency in our modern world.There is no longer the "Barter" system. Everything from wants and needs have to be supplied with MONEY. Something that important needs a plan. 

Sidenote:Its very attractive when A Man knows how to handle his money.

Have a conversation and listen to one another about your plans for your collective finances.

So Start by setting a time, date, and place to sit down at a coffee shop and go over your short term and long term goals where your money is concerned.

When you both come together, you are both putting value and respect on your present and your future. A person who values these things will help the relationship grow, and therefore the interest too. 

So I believe we've covered enough today. As a matter of fact a lot of you have shared with me  what you do to keep your partners interested. So check out the blog then to hear from some of you and what you had to say.. I cant wait. 

Also check out who will be our featured guest right here on #AdultTalkWithIB none other than the Ms. Nicole Grays Owens #NIKO.... shes coming with the fire. if you dont know her now, you will . Beautiful, smart, funny and Stylists to the Stars. Lets see what shes up to. 

Check out this week on our live radio show on # SimplyIB the Sophisticated and Amazing Maverick in Business and Personal Development. Mr Ruben West this Wednesday on #SimplyIB at 8 pm eastern or dial 845 241 9898 

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This Wednesday we will have a continuation of

HOW TO KEEP YOUR PARTNER INTERESTED.

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